If your relationship ends, you need to try to resolve child custody arrangements yourselves before you can go to court.
You can apply for urgent help if you have a very good reason for needing it. The Ministry of Justice (MoJ) explains what these reasons typically are, and what you’ll need to do — including other options if you cannot afford a lawyer.
It’s best if you can agree directly with your partner who’ll take care of your children when you separate. If you cannot agree on custody, you have to follow a process to try and resolve it yourselves before it gets to court.
This free course helps parents focus on the needs of children. You have to do this first. Parenting through separation course — MoJ
If you cannot agree on custody after completing the course for parenting through separation, you’ll work with a mediator to help you decide together how to care for your children. Mediation to work out parenting disagreements: Family Dispute Resolution — MoJ There’s a cost for mediation, but some people qualify for funding. Qualifying for funding — MoJ
If you still cannot agree after completing the course and mediation, you can apply to the Family Court to make a custody order. Going to Family Court after mediation — MoJ A lawyer may represent you at any time during the process. Lawyers for parents and children — MoJ For more information call the family justice help line on 0800 224 733.
Information that’s written for kids to help them understand what’s going on when their parents separate.
For parents, the Ministry of Justice also has advice and resources for getting help for your children. These include: